No! Of course not! The power of the Almighty God is so much bigger and stronger than anything you and I could ever possibly conceive. He deserves one hundred percent of ourselves, surrendered fully to Him.
Yes, do continue to seek change, but do it the right way this time, through accountability, wise counsel, support groups, and other proven methods of change. Yes, try to find and implement work-arounds for all of the issues that steal your energies, your time, and your sanity. But throughout the process, keep your focus exactly where it belongs, not on yourself and the mess you have made of your life but on God and how much He loves you and wants to use you for His purposes and His glory.
We all have shortcomings, but the good news is that He loves us anyway. He loves us so much that He sent His son to the cross to die for us! Decide now to put Him on the throne of your life, not the sidelines. Decide now that even if you never change another thing about yourself, at least you will change any of the ways you have allowed your heart to harden toward Him. Surrender to God! Open yourself to His leading! Allow Him to be the very Lord of your life! In the end, these are the only actions that will ever really matter.
As the Apostle Paul puts it in the book of Romans, set your focus where it belongs—not on yourself and your flaws but on Christ Jesus Himself and His Spirit which lives within you. Then the peace of the Spirit will fill your heart and guide your life, bringing you into a deeper, far more fulfilling relationship with God.
Along the way, my prayer for you, as it continues to be for myself, is that He would grant you…
the serenity to accept the things about yourself that you’ll never be able to change,
the courage and the tools to change the things you can,
and the wisdom to understand the difference.
Let this be the year you decide to toss the resolutions entirely and instead focus on Him and His plan for you. Remember: This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It's adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike "What's next, Papa?"
May God bless you as you ask Him that very question and then see exactly what He has in store for you!